As far as I know with today technology, the deadline 30 is no longer the deadline. It just having a baby before 30 is easier to recover based on friends' experience.
The biological clock is around 39 I think... A lot of my friends, including my sister in law had her baby at 35 and she is fine. And I'm not sure if I want a kid... I don't want to have a kid just because everybody have a kid... I'm not ready to give up my career for a child yet...so ... still deciding...
As far as I know with today technology, the deadline 30 is no longer the deadline. It ju ...
Nam 發表於 2011-7-29 12:22
The technology is there to better monitor the health and condition the baby is in. It can also help with early detection / diagnosis of any complications the baby might have so that the parent are more informed throughout the pregnancy process, and find out about those conditions earlier so that they are in a better position to decide what to do (mostly about whether they will keep or abort the fetus if an anomaly is detected). The technology is also there to offer superior support in cases of premature deliveries and other health conditions that the baby might have. Technology (hormonal supplement / treament is one) is also there to extend the menstrual cycle and keep it going until an older age, thereby extending the potential fertility period of a woman. But all the technology that exist cannot reduce or mitigate the health risks that fetus face when their mother are pregnant at an older age. When the mother's body gets old, the mother's body gets old, and the risk factors go up.
It all depends on whether you want to have a family. The problem is, your mindset may or may not be ready, but your physical body won't wait for you to make up your mind. When your body ages, your body ages. You can stretch it a bit, but you can't turn back the biological clock.
I think you misunderstood my concern. I'm lucky to have to chance to witness a mom point of view. From having a baby, to raise a baby and babysit a baby. So I know what I need to expect phyiscally and mentally to be a mom. I just don't want to be irresponsible, just have a baby, for the sake of it's about time.
I'm lucky to understand the frustration of wanting a baby because of biological clock as one of my close friend is 39 and she is willing to be a single mom, she just want a baby...doesn't matter if her bf is not mature enough to be a dad....
I'm a very traditional woman.... if I have a child, I cannot stand myself always OT, taking classes, always on the run. I cannot stand hiring a nanny to take care of my child as i see it is my responsibility....... so... I need to think it over carefully... but for sure, I know I'm not ready yet, not now.
I like your last word... "囉"... "C9" feel, according to FY...
Somehow people have to distinguish between reasons and excuses...
As a mom @ 40 of having the first new born babe, it's way TOO... late... Don't tell me you have a plan, but rather, you are actually a dreamer... What time do you wake up? 35, 36, 37, 38, 39,...etc.
Technology is only used to help those who are physically incapable to do so... Don't abuse it! Normal ladies get about 500 飛 in their life time ONLY before running out of bullets... Or you can freeze up your eggs until you are 100, if you stilll believe in technology 囉...
How come it is "無問題"? Haven't you count the time you are with your kid, haven't you count the time you are with your grand kid...?
I don't actually know what HK ladies are thinking about these days... In terms of only thinking about living quality, there should be something more important...
As a lady, how many men would you think they will "like" to squeeze their "cells" to your body when you are 40?? To be honest, I would say "Go F yourself" or you can ask for donation... (Sorry of being rude...)
My friends always told me that men are 專一 because
"when we are 20's, we like 20 years old chicks";
"when we are 30's, we like 20 years old chicks"; and
"when we are 40's, we like 20 years old chicks too...
To be continue...d...
發表於 2011-7-29 11:57
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"C9" feel, according to FY... 
