chobit

Same thing here wor!!

做人做到咁大壓力仲乜鬼丫...
皮笑肉不笑? 同親人食飯都好似搞辦公室政治咁, 太辛苦, 唔適合小弟既STYL ...
mcjohnjohn 發表於 2013-1-13 21:21

chobit

I really like this =D

chunsh 發表於 2013-1-13 23:09

fibbi

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    Great standup comedy.

相處之道，不外乎你就下我，我就下你。女仔講嘢溫柔啲婉轉啲無錯，不過啲男仔都唔可以take it for granted。

fibbi

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  不如問你一個問題吖，如果你帶個女朋友第一次返屋企食飯，你阿媽筆湯過你老豆，但唔覺意 ...
jiujiujiu 發表於 2013-1-13 02:25

難為了蕉蕉。。。

如果係我，我會覺得少見為妙。。。同埋認真睇吓個男友會唔會遺傳到呢啲性格。始終喺個咁嘅家庭長大，唔知會唔會有影響。

chunsh

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    Great standup comedy.

相處之道，不外乎你就下我，我就下你。女仔講嘢溫柔啲婉轉啲 ...
fibbi 發表於 2013-1-14 11:47

yes, of course I know. but BASED ON WHAT WE KNOW here, sounds like she is trying to play politics or small circles on her husband's family after she married to her husband.

You know, no matter how bad his parents are, those are the ones who gave birth and raise her husband. More importantly, no matter how bad manner does her father in-law has, thats the way THEIR family go for all the years. What right does she has to try to change other people's family culture to hers.

Damn, "princess" nowadays only get along with their own parents and dislike/lookdown to their hubby/bf families. Just wtf wrong with them? (go reading the section of those hk forums about marriage problem, u can see many cases)
I think, if she doesn't like her father-in-law, just explain to her husband, and avoid her father-in-law as best as possible, not "intrude" other people's family

fibbi

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    Well, from what I sense from her posts, she may encounter some situation where FIL kinda confront/offend her directly? (not that she see FIL is bad to MIL then she reacts).

And yes I would agree if it's just their family business I wouldn't react unless FIL directly insults or do something bad to ME. Other than that just stay out (or not meet) as much as possible.

chunsh

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    Well, from what I sense from her posts, she may encounter some situation where F ...
fibbi 發表於 2013-1-14 14:15

yes, if in case she got direct insult verbally or something, doing it in the old school way: if possible, let both of their parents handle it, not starting a fight in her hubby's family. cos trying to starting this family politics in your other half family will do no good to ANYONE.

or, if her FIL insult her verbally, she should tell her FIL, in a mature way, that this offended her and ask her FIL to stop. If her FIL refuse, avoiding all family parties is actually an appropriate choice.

Again, we dont know the whole story, so....

fibbi

家家有本難念的經啦。
But for the "old school" way you mention that involved both side parents, I'd rather not trouble my own parents la...
Imagine, then my parents will be mad about my husband (so as their parents, and then upset about me marrying to such a "family"...) I'd rather handle it within us(me+husband).

chunsh

家家有本難念的經啦。
But for the "old school" way you mention that involved both side parents, I'd r ...
fibbi 發表於 2013-1-14 14:25

second thought....you are right

fibbi

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    again, if the in-law family did something "bad" to me, I do expect husband to kinda "protect" me on the spot or do something, at least not completely quiet.

Then later on just avoid family gathering.