raffaello

Lo-Pak,

I think you misunderstood my concern.  I'm lucky to have to chance to witness a mom point  ...
Nam 發表於 2011-7-29 13:25

Ask your boyfriend whether he is willing to be a stay-at-home dad if taking care of a child is what concern you.

Nam

Ask your boyfriend whether he is willing to be a stay-at-home dad if taking care of a child is wha ...
raffaello 發表於 2011-7-29 18:30

My boyfriend doesn't want a kid, it's not 100% but he prefer not to has a kid. At least not now.

So once in awhile, we had this discussion because he wants to make sure I'm on the same page and if I want a kid, we have to prepare for it.

He said ever since he was 7, he is surround by kidssss and he is 36 now and still surround by kids. (He is the youngest in the family and his mom had 8 child...)


So both he and I are experienced to take care of child and know what to expect.
Whenever he asked me if I want a child, I just don't have an answer for him.  His friend said right now, I'm too focus on school and work.  Maybe few years later, I will change.


As for age of parents, my mom and dad had me when my mom was 36 and had my older brother when she was 30.  haha, other than I was weak when I was a baby girl, I don't see I have much health problem....

So assume we won't have kid in future, I work extra hard lately and save money for investment.  I asked few mom who had kids, or those who convinced me to have kid, why they think I should have one.  The answer mostly are when we get old, we have a child to take care of us and spend time with us.   But look at today kids, how many of them really care of their parents. Maybe it is common in our generation... but if having a kid is a secured future retirement.    I found that is very selfish.  I would want nothing from my kid if I ever have one. I just wish them have a happy, healthy life...

fibbi

回復 42# Nam


    我從來都無期望養兒防老，仔大仔世界，佢哋自己顧掂自己就好好啦。
我靜係覺得一個家庭無兒女嘅話好似缺少啲咩咁，無咁完滿，純粹個人觀感。

raffaello

My boyfriend doesn't want a kid, it's not 100% but he prefer not to has a kid. At least not now.
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Nam 發表於 2011-7-29 20:04

Yeah, I also cannot agree with people who are expecting so much from their children. Somehow, If I want to have children, it would be becaues I want to experience being a mother in my life. It is a life experience and it makes my life complete. I would like my children to be healthy and happy so they are also able to enjoy their lives.

Anyway, I hate kids so I don't expect myself having any..haha. Some people just keep telling me that I will change my mind in the future but I actually find it quite annoying when they keey saying it. They are taking things way too personal than they should be. After all, it is none of their business. Maybe I will change. Maybe I will never change. I am not stupid and I know it very well that I may not be able to get pregnant in the furture if I am really changing my mind by then (most likely won't..haha..). But I am willing to take the risk. No one can always get all they want. If I choose to enjoy freedom today, I am not going to complain about not able to have a child tomorrow. It just sounds a bit too greedy to me ;-)

pkphilip

Philip,

I didn't know you could be bought for a price.

-Lik
Lik 發表於 2011-7-29 15:05

It's simple la, 男家 have to pay 嫁妝, since the mom is jokingly asking for $100K (didn't say CND or HKD or YEN or RMB), in this instance here I can bargain the price down because I have more market. I think that's 賣女, not 嫁女.

Also, I could start collecting favors and use it against the 嫁妝.. ie.. if wants me to fix the computer to watch PPTV, the bill will be deducted from the 嫁妝 amount.

Philip

raffaello

It's simple la, 男家 have to pay 嫁妝, since the mom is jokingly asking for $100K (didn't say CND  ...
pkphilip 發表於 2011-7-29 22:46

It is called 禮金 ar, not 嫁妝...hahaha...

pkphilip

My English is bad.. I know.

Philip