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作者: Alcoholic 時間: 2008-3-27 23:01 標題: 如果你唔開心，點安慰你自己?

今天完全輸哂
頭痛，頭暈，冇胃口
岩岩仲留埋鼻血
個人好累，不過激到好精神
個心un住un住

晏晝唯一做左令我以為會開心D既係狂埋朱古力&飲左杯正既hot chocolate. but it didn't make me happier one bit even though i'm a harsh chocolate lover.

the only thing that made me feel better, is my mom comforting me over the phone, & true friends that helped & call.

i feel a bit better now, but i'm still CHOKED & BITTER.

what do you guys do to make yourself feel better/happier/optimistic after a trauma???

作者: 000 時間: 2008-3-28 00:15

1. Watch comedy or cartoon at home, or listen to some very soft music, read a novel
2. Relax yourself in a quiet place, think about GOOD things in your life (good friends, your other half, family members...)
, or what you have in your life...
3. If u prefer stay at home, look at sky, cloud, trees, flowers, houses, ... outside the window.
4. Talk to a good friend, express your feeling would make u fell much better.

hope this will help &
hope u recover very soon :>

作者: SAZABI 時間: 2008-3-28 00:18

打小人

作者: Guy 時間: 2008-3-28 00:26

菩提本無樹，明鏡亦非台，本來無一物，何處惹塵埃

佛對我說：你的心上有塵。我用力地擦拭。
佛說：你錯了，塵是擦不掉的。我於是將心剝了下來.
佛又說：你又錯了，塵本非塵，何來有塵
我領悟不透，是什麼意思？
我想這是從神秀和慧能那兩個偈子引申出來。
神秀說：“身是菩提樹，心如明鏡台，時時勤拂拭，勿使惹塵埃。”
慧能說：“菩提本無樹，明鏡亦非台，本來無一物，何處惹塵埃。”
的確，要能夠參透這兩個偈子的確很難，就是正確的理解也不易。
參悟不透...
身是菩提樹，心如明鏡台，時時勤拂拭，勿使惹塵埃
眾生的身體就是一棵覺悟的智慧樹，
眾生的心靈就象一座明亮的台鏡。
要時時不斷地將它撣拂擦試，
不讓它被塵垢污染障蔽了光明的本性。
菩提本無樹，明鏡亦非台，本來無一物，何處惹塵埃
菩提原本就沒有樹，
明亮的鏡子也並不是台。
本來就是虛無沒有一物，
那裏會染上什麼塵埃?
現在只能從字面上去理解它，慘悟不透！
心本無塵，塵即是心。無心無塵，人便死。
我曾經思考過一個問題:
人覺得一個東西好吃,事實上嗅覺比味覺占更大的比重
所以象狗這樣嗅覺靈敏的生物,在飲食上遠比我們快樂
這樣的想法到底對不對?..如果錯了..錯在哪里?
其實塵在外，心在內，常拂之，心淨無塵；
塵在內，心在外，常剝之，無塵無心；
心中有塵，塵本是心，
何畏心中塵，無塵亦無心??正如慧能所說的仁者心動
又如道家所說的道可道非常道
它們的道理是一樣的
佛家講究萬物在心追求修世
道家講究無牽無掛追求避世
佛家想超脫今世道家則是修行今世而追究其原理來說都是一種修行
而最樓上的說的是一種超脫
卻不是刻意的尋求
主旨在心
世間人，法無定法，然後知非法法也；
天下事，了猶未了，何妨以不了了之。

作者: Littleprince 時間: 2008-3-28 00:32

我以前的老闆好叻﹐他通常在我很無助的時候說﹕放心﹐還不是到世界末日。。。我會感覺好少少囉。。。

但如果我真係勁 DOWN 的日子﹐我會食朱古力﹐狂打機﹐或者狂睡覺囉。。。

不過視乎件事有幾嚴重﹐試過有親戚突然逝世﹐我也是由得自己狂哭﹐發泄過就覺得好D﹐容易接受事實DD。。。

alc, 無論是甚麼事。。。都是

會過去的。。。

人必需往前望。。。請保重~~~

作者: pigheadbone 時間: 2008-3-28 06:18

豪哭一場..

作者: pinkyblue 時間: 2008-3-28 09:59

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作者: myversa 時間: 2008-3-28 10:07

1.  Playing video games

2.  watching japanese animation or tv series that are comical.

3.  Walking my dog

4.  Writing Blog to let it out.  Since I do not have any friends who I can really "talk to" here in Vancouver, this is the only way to let it out.

作者: fibbi 時間: 2008-3-28 10:08

Eating....
Shopping (it could be just window shopping...)

That would make me feel a bit better...

作者: myversa 時間: 2008-3-28 10:27

BTW Hope you are feeling better now.

作者: Alcoholic 時間: 2008-3-28 10:35

i just woke up right now.... don't feel as sh!tty as yesterday, but feel so 空虛。

i didn't cry at all yesterday. everytime tears accumulate in my eyes, i always just "awk"高頭，等眼淚唔會掉下，等風吹乾. so i walked on the streets for 3 hrs yesterday lifting my head into the wind.

but i guess i wasn't as strong as i thought i would be because by the time i was tired enough to go to bed at like 1ish am, i just kinda silent cried a little bit in bed on my hubby's shoulders.

i'm trying to let it go like everybody tells me to. understand that it passed...& i have chance to look forward to... but it's so hard! at least i don't feel so choked & bitter now... just feel so 空虛. in a way, it's better.

sigh
Sazabi, your idea only works in imagination. it's childish thoughts, i tried to think of funny ways i can 打小人in my mind...but it just didn't make me feel better. i guess i'm not a kid no more

sigh
有人自然就會惹塵埃~ it's so difficult to have your inner self to 覺悟智慧, while your 肉體在塵世追求虛無的物to survive

作者: myversa 時間: 2008-3-28 10:47

If you do not mind me asking....

What happened?

作者: Babida 時間: 2008-3-28 11:13

beer, beer, beer; music, music, music.

作者: Ultraman 時間: 2008-3-28 11:18

原帖由 pinkyblue 於 2008-3-28 09:59 發表
你都叫做好啦..仲有另一半錫番..我如今只獨單一人...唉.....

She didn't mention she has any care from her another half wor? Maybe hurt from him originally?? What happened and who upset her? Anyways, "to untie the bell needs the one who tied it" la!

作者: puZZle 時間: 2008-3-28 11:22

sadness will pass
but more new sadness will come

why don't you look for a solution that lasts longer?

作者: angeldevil 時間: 2008-3-28 11:51

humm...
to me, using diff. ways to cheer myself up really depends on what happened

if it's family thing> usually cry / tell someone what it is & get some agreement & comfort from someone else
if it's love problem> can't do anything... love problems has greater temporary impact on me
if it's work problem> usually just talk it all out

after I had some treatment to 'the problem' now I'm left with my emotions...
if i'm pissed> i'll just be really grumpy
if i'm down/ empty> i'll
1).eat whatever I wanna eat/drink (that's eatable& drinkable)
2). just let myself to be as empty & as 頹廢 as I can... used up all of these negative energy

THEN do something that i'm good @ to satisfy myself... u kn... feel some sense of accomplishment & hope in order to get myself going..

coz I believe when u approach to the max of the negative, all its left is positive~
=D

its kinda complicated to explain... plus, it didn't work everytime, too
but hope that it helps...
the best way is find urself a 心靈上 ge relief...
cheer up~
=D

作者: Alcoholic 時間: 2008-3-28 11:52

I have alot of support, care & comfort from my hubby.

while other people comfort me, my heart will feel better, makes me feel that i'm a strong person, which i am.

but dunno why when my hubby comfort me, it actually made me very weak... that's how i went through the whole day without tears falling out, but at night in bed with his comfort, i couldn't help but cry on his shoulders. maybe because with him by my side, i feel so safe that i can just let off my guard & be a 小女人。

what happened was a very complicated progression of slow death poison. i wouldn't mind sharing it, but i know for a fact that some LYK民運份子 will start a drama. my lesson learned: you ability, persistence, strength & tolerance has no affect on your survival chance in any type of battlefield.

作者: myversa 時間: 2008-3-28 14:38

Go out with your hubby tomorrow and forgot about everything lo.

Maybe you can go to the dog who in Abbersford. Seeing cute dogs will make me forget sad things.

作者: scottina 時間: 2008-3-28 19:27

講粗口..

作者: Littleprince 時間: 2008-3-28 19:57

原帖由 Alcoholic 於 2008-3-28 11:52 發表
I have alot of support, care & comfort from my hubby.

while other people comfort me, my heart will feel better, makes me feel that i'm a strong person, which i am.

but dunno why when my hub ...

你講起這種感覺我都試過﹐我發覺係響一個強壯的臂灣內就會找到自己內裡的小女人。。。

我一向扮剛強﹐死都唔響人面前哭。。。響加拿大第一份工﹐都係成日要服務客人﹐有時難免比客人罵﹐我不夠膽回罵﹐但一定死頂唔會哭出來。。。只有一個老闆﹐唔知點解﹐我響他面前哭了三次﹐他沒有罵我﹐每次都只是溫柔地安慰我﹐我都覺得呢種情況好奇怪。。。響其他人面前我點都忍到﹐但對著他我就完全軟晒﹐或許因為他比到我安全感吧﹐其實我都唔太明點解。。。或者因為人同人之間係有種很微妙的化學作用吧。。。

作者: Alcoholic 時間: 2008-3-28 22:03

things that i did so far:

- not eating (well, no appetite anyways)
- binge eating
- venting out with excessive swearing
- o爹
- massive chocolate intake
- sleep (that didn't go too well)
- shopping. but no mood to buy even though the dress looks hot on
- 扮靚 (didn't go well either cus i look & feel like sh!t)
- i wanna play my UO to continue decorate my house, but my pc is too slow
- act happy
- try to keep myself occupied

作者: Alcoholic 時間: 2008-3-28 22:13

原帖由 Littleprince 於 2008-3-28 07:57 PM 發表

你講起這種感覺我都試過﹐我發覺係響一個強壯的臂灣內就會找到自己內裡的小女人。。。

我一向扮剛強﹐死都唔響人面前哭。。。響加拿大第一份工﹐都係成日要服務客人﹐有時難免比客人罵﹐我不夠膽回罵﹐但一定死頂唔會哭出來 ...

唔係假唔假既問題，只係我o係越陌生既人面前，我會越剛強. 因為我唔會想比人睇到底牌。
老公令我覺得有安全感，可以依靠，可以信賴。
雖然黎單係 a much bigger problem/unhappiness than 我上次燒親自己頭髮。。。但係反而我只有無聲地喊左一次，冇好似燒親頭髮個次咁大大聲喊左成粒鍾o爹老公。唔知點解

作者: matt72178 時間: 2008-3-28 22:39

你可以試下拎返以前/細個D 相黎睇﹐或者可以睇返你HK 朋友寄俾你既信或生日卡/聖誕卡。你會勾返起好多暫時遺忘既開心回憶﹐心情自然可以平復。

作者: utopia 時間: 2008-3-28 23:39

Twin,

what happened??? You should have called me ~~~~~

Depends on what kind of situation.

If someone dump me, I would torture myself by listening love songssss
Cry all I want until I'm tired and calm. Then, tell myself I'm still good and strong, life still goes on and I should never lose.

If it's about my worklife, I'm very choked and pissed. I would swear all I want, either to my close friends or even alone in the car. I figure swear can let go of stresses sometimes

If it doesn't help, then I will start thinking how good my life is, and how screw up she/he is, and I have much better life to live instead of ruining my day for him/her.

If it's about familiy, I try to be optimistic and try to think for a better excuse for them or remember the good old days. Then I will try to solve/find out what went on.

If it's about friendship, pretty much same with family .

p.s. TWIN, called me tomorow passed afternoon, and let me know what happened, ok?
You make me worry. Sorrie, I have final tomorrow morning ........still digging my textbook and notes.......

作者: Intelstan 時間: 2008-3-29 00:03

My way is to sit in a relaxing chair and listen to music and/or go to sleep.

作者: yungfourfour 時間: 2008-3-29 00:12

What I'd usually do is to talk it out, at least let all ppl around me know what happened, even those event might be embarrassing.... I jsut don't like people talking behind my back. I'd rather tell them what happened to me no matter what... and in time when I repeat telling ppl the hard feeling started to fade lor

Don't carry your bad feeling to the weekend! be happy

作者: shinnrhyme 時間: 2008-3-29 00:21

just think... ull be feeling much better in x amount of hours hahaha

作者: Alcoholic 時間: 2008-3-29 02:01

matt:
all my childhood goofy pics with my siblings are at my mom's place

i have no friends in hk either

during my time trying to keep myself occupied, i try my best to have positive thinking, try to think of some 自我反省 etc... this morning i feel so 空虛. but by now, i just feel numb. like.... i don't feel anything

in a way, it is still 平復心情?

Twin,
after my long long email. now you know what happened lah. *sigh* sorry i didn't check LYK earlier, i didn't know you replied. or else i would have waited until tomorrow afternoon sin sms you lah... sorry baby~ good luck on your exam tomorrow. even though i'll be sleeping (hopefully), i'll still pray & wish you the best luck

yung44,
i did.... i did vent. maybe that's why my heart don't feel that "rock" 頂住anymore, which leaves me feeling numb. although in a way it did make me better, but i felt bad for being bummed out about it for 2 days, & ranting on & on.
but i am glad that my familiy & friends are very supportive & understanding.... at least i'm comfortable with ranting to them sin lah. that i'm very grateful to those people that have heard me spill the story ( i here thanks Twin & Sazabi

)

作者: superberry 時間: 2008-3-29 20:05

1. Pray to God
2. Talk to a trustable person that is not related to the situation
3. Eat a lot of chocolate (and coffee if I get stress out)
4. Go shopping. In extreme situation when I am super unhappy, I'll buy myself a LV and ignore the credit card payment for awhile.

作者: Mini 時間: 2008-3-29 22:23

how about watching those super funny stupid low b movies which don't need you to think but just laugh? (like there's something about mary, stephen chow's old movies, wong jing's or TV shows like eric tsang's 獎門人). reading funny comics like ranma 1/2. i found that some of the mcdull comics and most of the 草日貓貓系列 can make me laugh my head off.

作者: slamdunk6 時間: 2008-3-29 22:50

放一個 long vacation

作者: Intelstan 時間: 2008-3-29 23:54

People always say money can't buy happiness, but money can buy away unhappiness. So go shopping and buy what you like.

作者: Alcoholic 時間: 2008-3-30 13:42

after 3 days, my 心情 feel more 平復. but i'm still bummed out. i look forward to a new week starting tomorrow.

i tried the partying method last night. unfortunately, i wasn't even in the mood to get wasted. maybe because i never had gotten hammered before. but partying with Twin & the right group of girls did make me feel the fun.

i tried shopping with my mom yesterday too. but i wasn't even in the mood. i looked so tired even though i'm not. worse is, even if i wanted to splurge, i see nothing. *sigh*

sometimes i just wanna run away & go back on vacation on a beach. but too bad, hubby no vacation time to take off from work. i think that would be one thing that would make me happier. like a trip to get away from all the bullsh!t.

作者: Teacup 時間: 2008-3-30 18:29 標題: A book that might help

Maybe 你可以試下睇 Eckhart Tolle 既 The new earth 這本書,
我近來都超級down, 係人生中的第三個Trama...
剛好看了這本書, 幫左我好多, 令我這個Suffering 既experience 變成左一個好好的Learning / Enlightenment 既程.

e 本書係Opray Winfrey 都有recommend 的.
Hope it may helps.
Good luck.

作者: its_visa 時間: 2008-3-30 21:03

i feel like shXt right now too....
and i want to escape and go to a nice cool place to relax...

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