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作者: mattb    時間: 2008-8-6 22:52     標題: Should I keep pursuing this girl?

I will try to make this as concise as possible.

1. Met a girl from a not very close friend 2 weeks ago. Got her #

2. Called her up to hang out. When I called no on picked but she but calls back the next night. Agreed to hang out on Sunday.

3. I hanged out with her last Sunday for lunch then went to play a sport. She said that her friend was visting from seattle at that time so I was suprised she even came out
I took that as a good sign.

4. Called her on tuesday, this time no one answers again.  The next night (tonight), she calls again like clockwork.
This makes feels like shes playing games here. Why would she always call me back the next night and make me wait?
Shes obviously awake when I called her.

5. Blow water a bit then asked if she was free on the weekend. She said she was going clubbing and the night market on fri and sat. I asked if she was available to hang out on Sunday and she probably has to do some house chores.

Right now I take that as a subtle rejection. Obviously, you can schedule your time  around housechores. I guess she just wasn't interested in hanging out?

I have decided to either not contact her again or maybe at least not for a few weeks. What do you guys think?

[ 本帖最後由 mattb 於 2008-8-6 23:54 編輯 ]
作者: puZZle    時間: 2008-8-7 00:32

mind game mind game

ditch her!
作者: siuyudim    時間: 2008-8-7 00:44

if she's interested, she'll call you. but if you don't receive a single text/sms in a week or two... there's your answer. good luck.
作者: shutterbug    時間: 2008-8-7 07:17

too early to say wor...but enjoy this "guessing" period...it's a fun game...
作者: 匿名    時間: 2008-8-7 10:16

if she doesnt pick up only means she doesnt wanna talk to you, or she's busy. just because she calls back the next night, doesn't mean she is purposely making you wait. you feel like you're waiting because you want to progress with your target.

clubbing and night market dates are pre-scheduled with whoever she's going with. what's wrong if she wants to do some housework to work around her scheduled weekend plans? remember the fact that you are the one who wants to see her asap....doesn't mean your target needs to make time for you and put you into priority. grow up.
作者: mattb    時間: 2008-8-7 11:44

原帖由 Anonymous 於 2008-8-7 11:16 發表
if she doesnt pick up only means she doesnt wanna talk to you, or she's busy. just because she calls back the next night, doesn't mean she is purposely making you wait. you feel like you're waiting be ...



Please learn to read. I never said there was anything "wrong" with her scheduling around her time to do housework. I was simply saying that this action suggests she is probably not interested (or interested enough) and I should no longer pursue her.

By the way, the person who needs to grow up is you.  Acting like a troll in a forum while posting anonymously won't get you far in life. Grow up, buddy.
作者: mattb    時間: 2008-8-7 11:46

原帖由 siuyudim 於 2008-8-7 01:44 發表
if she's interested, she'll call you. but if you don't receive a single text/sms in a week or two... there's your answer. good luck.


Yes that's right.  I think my decision is correct and it looks like most of you agree. (except the anonymous troll who likes to take cheap shots at other people)
作者: siumaibb    時間: 2008-8-7 11:56

or maybe she decided to ditch you because she read your post here.......
作者: Guy    時間: 2008-8-7 13:01

I will call that Magic of Love

call her a few times.. more.. and then pause a little bit see
if she call you back and check out on you...if she does ...she is in..

you have to understand this is her ego.....if you consistently call her.. she felt she is needed and locked on.......
when you sudden stop calling ...she will felt .."am i lose his interest?...I gotta find out" then she will start calling you...


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作者: 匿名    時間: 2008-8-7 21:53

原帖由 mattb 於 2008-8-7 11:44 AM 發表



Please learn to read. I never said there was anything "wrong" with her scheduling around her time to do housework. I was simply saying that this action suggests she is probably not interested (or i ...

if there's nothing "wrong" then howcome you're complaining that you're NOT GETTING IMMEDIATE ATTENTION? face the fact you want her, & it's up to her discretion if you have a shot at it or not. a real man won't vent out over small crap like this online...thats what everyone expects in the progress of pursuing a chick. so obviously, you're either too young, or inexperienced at courtship. if you are so damn cocky about the annoymous thing, why make an ID online to post on a forum? comon dude...everyone on LYK is pretty much on the same boat buddy. if you had the guts, you woulda used your real name & used your own face as an avatar.
作者: cllo    時間: 2008-8-8 07:43

interesting topic here.  why are we allowing posting anonymously.  there is ppl who know who's who here.  that way post wont go too far.

maybe Mr. 匿名 is trying to chase the same girl as you, mattb.  or 匿名 is the one your are chasing.,  be careful here.  maybe she's testing you out.

Sorry, no offence here.  Be seriously, i dont think we should have anonymous posting on this board.
作者: news    時間: 2008-8-8 08:25

how abt u post her pic here and we will tell u whether its worth a shot
作者: E-anne    時間: 2008-8-8 11:09

what don't you ask her out as a date instead of asking her if she is free on the weekend? if some guy asks me, i would not want to tell him that i am doing nothing on my weekend lor.  so in this case, nothing wrong that she tells you she is going clubbing and she has to do housework.

be a man and ask her out, tell her that it is a date/you want to get to know her and see how she respond. then you can decide if you should ditch or continue this chasing game. good luck.
作者: pepsis2    時間: 2008-8-8 16:12

hey guy! be patient!

can't wait a night or so? = can't get the good food in your mouth!
作者: Intelstan    時間: 2008-8-8 19:25

I don't think she is very interested.  Should save your time and money for another girl.
作者: Blue    時間: 2008-8-8 21:11

dun see a big problem here...
i always call ppl back in a day or so...
if im busy at work, i wont ans the phone right away but i will call the person back later..
sometimes i call ppl back in 1-2 days when i actually hv time to relax n talk..

plus doing housework is not really an excuse.. i need to do laundry on my days off too ..
if i dont, then how m i supposed to get clean sets of clothes for work n stuff... = =?
作者: raima    時間: 2008-8-9 00:14

just be polite and be honest and ask her out for real. make it obvious that you're interested and you like to get to know her more, and let see if your relationship with her will go anywhere. but please don't say "do you wanna be my girlfriend?" that's a big no-no.

if you're being honest, but she still decides to play games with you. then honestly, why would you wanna date someone who likes to play games all the time? imagine if one day she does turn out to be your girlfriend, she'll keep playing mind games with you. do you think you'll be able to handle it? and don't even think about "she'll change" blah blah. if she plays games now, she will play games in the future too.
作者: srice    時間: 2008-8-9 20:35

You should not jump into a conclusion by just 2 phone calls... put more time and see... keep calling her a few more times and try to ask her out.

Remember, she doesn't know that u are interested at her... so be patient! for the case now, at least she called you back and talk to u, which means at least she does not hate u, right? good luck!!
作者: Purpleheart    時間: 2008-8-10 00:51

r u 100% sure she is single?~
作者: weewee    時間: 2008-8-13 21:08

if u like the girl, give her another chance, call her or text her. If she says she is busy, tell her to call u when she is free and wants to hang out... then just wait for her call... u'll know if she is interested or not
作者: pkphilip    時間: 2008-8-13 21:45

Too early to tell. As many suggested to ask her out formally on a date, then if she says no, you get your answer. Try to put yourself in her shoe, maybe you will understand something.

I get the feeling that you are somehow desperate to find out a definite answer, that I think itself could scare her away. I think if you are really interested in that girl, you should spend some time to understand her (not neccessary have to go out), spend some time on the phone, see how comfortable you both talking to each other.

I am one of those who has awkward work schedule, that doesn't prevent me from dating/chasing girls. My golden rule of dating is to understand who I am dating, what am I up against. Then try to see if there is a possibility for development. Being a guy, I treat "eat lemon" like rice.

There are many ways to find out if the other person is interested in you, simply by starting a conversation and see if she is willing to engage in your conversation. If her responses are simple and lame answer, chances are she is not that interested.

Philip
作者: mattb    時間: 2008-8-15 00:56

原帖由 Anonymous 於 2008-8-7 22:53 發表

if there's nothing "wrong" then howcome you're complaining that you're NOT GETTING IMMEDIATE ATTENTION? face the fact you want her, & it's up to her discretion if you have a shot at it or not. a real man won't vent out over small crap like this online...thats what everyone expects in the progress of pursuing a chick. so obviously, you're either too young, or inexperienced at courtship. if you are so damn cocky about the annoymous thing, why make an ID online to post on a forum? comon dude...everyone on LYK is pretty much on the same boat buddy. if you had the guts, you woulda used your real name & used your own face as an avatar.

boy oh boy you really need to learn how to read..

Let me refute your arguments, point by point
"if there's nothing "wrong" then howcome you're complaining that you're NOT GETTING IMMEDIATE ATTENTION? face the fact you want her"
1. Read my post again. I wasn't complaining. Whether I was asking people here whether they agreed with my action. Oh , and right after I said I will not call her anymore, you still insist I wan her?

２。"it's up to her discretion if you have a shot at it or not. a real man won't vent out over small crap like this online...thats what everyone expects in the progress of pursuing a chick. so obviously, you're either too young, or inexperienced at courtship.〞
Ａ real man won't post anonymously and talk trash. Wait, I guess I am such a "noob" in relationship that I managed to get a girl's number the first time I met her, asked her out to hang out 1v1 with me, and gave her a back massage on our first meeting? Wow, I don't know too many guys who could pull that off. As for not continue to pursue her, its not really a big loss to me consider I have OTHER OPTIONS. If you think asking others opinion on whether they agree with my action is considered to be "venting" or "complaining", you have serious problems.

3. ". if you are so damn cocky about the annoymous thing, why make an ID online to post on a forum? comon dude...everyone on LYK is pretty much on the same boat buddy. if you had the guts, you woulda used your real name & used your own face as an avatar."

No you are not even making any sense.  I made an ID cus I need to post one on a forum? How else do I post. If you know any alternatives, please enlighten me.
Guts? Theres no requirement here to have to use your real picture and real name here right? Its pretty sad that you are refusing to even use to show your login id, as you are fully aware that by talking trash, you will be flamed by others (and that is exactly what happened here.)   How low can you possibly get when you even chicken out from using your account? I have seen my share of losers/chickenshvt, but you are definitely cream of the crop.

So pathetic, so naive..

btw, if you want to meet me in person, feel free to pm me

[ 本帖最後由 mattb 於 2008-8-15 02:03 編輯 ]
作者: mattb    時間: 2008-8-15 01:00

原帖由 cllo 於 2008-8-8 08:43 發表
interesting topic here.  why are we allowing posting anonymously.  there is ppl who know who's who here.  that way post wont go too far.

maybe Mr. 匿名 is trying to chase the same girl as you, mattb. ...


The girl is not Chinese, and she is alot more mature than 匿名.

In fact, 匿名 reminds me of a user who was recently banned from lyk. I can tell from his diction and writing style
But I can't confirm yet so I won't say who it is.
作者: nameless    時間: 2008-8-15 09:24

so this girl is korean? Japanese? caucasian ?
作者: 匿名    時間: 2008-8-15 11:50

If I'm a banned member, then I can choose not to annoymous my ID because I will then infact have a new ID that's unfamiliar to active LYKs

It's simple, so skip the BS: the conclusion that everyone is telling you in your face here is the fact that you're being too IMPATIENT, that's why you need an opinion to decide if you should keep on pursuing or not.

And I don't need to meet you in person because I do know how 7 you look like. That's why i'm an annoymous. Of course you think you're all pimping because the guys that you know are hermits and cannot approach a girl directly as you can "pulled it off"... but wait. That's not something impressive because that is the PROPER approach with the normal standards. Of course you're more superior when you compare yourself to low grading guys....

[ 本帖最後由 匿名 於 2008-8-15 11:51 編輯 ]
作者: mattb    時間: 2008-8-15 22:50

原帖由 Anonymous 於 2008-8-15 12:50 發表
If I'm a banned member, then I can choose not to annoymous my ID because I will then infact have a new ID that's unfamiliar to active LYKs

It's simple, so skip the BS: the conclusion that every ...


Its kinda hard to be as 7 as you to have to post anonymously so that you won't get your ass kicked for trolling.  Obviously, you knew you were gonna get flamed for doing that, so go as low as posting anonymously.
Pretty sad, no?

And I don't need to meet you in person because I do know how 7 you look like. That's why i'm an annoymous.

No, I assure you that I don't know you, and am not one of your many imaginary friends.

I love to see you get all worked up then get chickenshvt and refuse to come out. Are you one of those typical honger 毒男 who weighs 120 pounds that loves to talk trash online?
I can probably shoulder press your weight.

get a life, and good luck trying to get laid with your so called relationship insights

[ 本帖最後由 mattb 於 2008-8-16 00:02 編輯 ]
作者: 匿名    時間: 2008-8-18 09:00

i get laid everynight....and it's pretty obvious that YOU'RE not getting laid right now~ lol

besides, which man will need to go online to ask random people for opinion on whether or not to chase a girl? haha
作者: puZZle    時間: 2008-8-18 18:08

so how'd the story go?
作者: Hyde    時間: 2008-8-18 20:08

why do u care if she got a bf or not?
作者: news    時間: 2008-8-19 08:53

coz he is too scared getting rejected
作者: pkphilip    時間: 2008-8-20 10:52

If you are scared to get rejected, then you might as well stay home.

Understand the rules before you come out and play.

Philip
作者: mcjohnjohn    時間: 2008-8-20 19:56

樓主, 你係男人黎架!
想追就追, 佢接受你就最好啦, 唔接受你就閃啦.

so simple.



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