rockypath

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rockypath

Don't even bother what others think of you.
somewhereintime 發表於 2009-4-17 14:43

This is a very classic behaviour example of having low-confidence & lack of self-esteem.

rockypath

14# chocobun


Ignoring inputs from surroundings (ie. how people feel about or look at you) is a psychological self-protection mechanism. You might feel you are more confident by cutting yourself off from the surroundings, but actually it is not likely to help you build up the self-confidence.

I used to lack of self-esteem as well (maybe I am still be) and it took a long process to slowly build up the self-confidence. It is not just keep telling myself who I am and do not care how other people think about myself.

It, in fact, is a process of starting from very small tasks & goals. By achieving those small goals and moving to bigger goals, I slowly build up the self-confidence that way.

rockypath

i'm just talking about how some people would care about every sentence other people would say and elaborate it in their minds and stress themselves out when the oth ...
chocobun 發表於 2009-4-17 16:22

Agree with you.

One of my friends used to be like that and he cared so much about how people would think of him and he would go over every sentence in his mind before saying it. But he was totally stressed out to the point he could handle it no more and then he went to the other extreme.

Now he is much more balanced as he becomes more mature.