yungfourfour

Hm....... sounds like to me there's still a lot to find out b/t your gf and you...
Is she the type of person who doesn't want to work but wants you to pay for her?
or she finds you working too hard and the quality time b/t you two becomes ..... minimal?

I can understand your feeling.  a month ago I hand out Metro newspaper 6:00-9:00 a.m., then work as an analyst 1-9 p.m., and tutor high school students on weekend.  Now I quit Metro because of the weather ( I am in Alberta and it gets -20). AND I AM A GIRL.

It's so hard to save $1000 after tax, rent, food and stuff and in the end we got like.... 12K a year? It takes 1 person 3 years to save for a decent wedding and...... what about downpayment for houses after that???  Let her do the math.  Quality time doesn't require $$ all the time...

Well but at the same time, a person you care cannot be evaluated by $$

My sister recently had bipolar syndrome and i am preparing to leave everything in Alberta just to move back to take care of her.

yungfourfour

Doraemon 1002:

Find a job that pays you to study 1 or 2 courses  a semester or try to search for better job so that you don't need to work 70 hrs a week.  That's very exhausting.

Given that you made a decision to break up, you should've achieve much more and spend much less now, so be smart with your time, work smarter and get better wage rather than just working hard.  Good luck.

yungfourfour

Wooooh

an intermediate government job is only offering $50K annually, before tax!
so if you are making 50-60K, it's very decent.

Yellowknife and Fort Mac would be a place to go if you do wanna make much more

Diamond mines in yellowknife are looking for HR for $80K a year plus benefits, live on site for 12 hour shift a day, meal provided, but work 2 weeks off 2 weeks...+ vacations....... if you are engineer..... even more

Fort mac.... no need to mention why la.
$1500 a week for entry level engineer, a house to live, escalator-type salary raise, plus a possible 6 digit bonus a year

Timmies & theatre becomes the only entertainment.... so you have nowhere to spend your money

In a short period of time you can retire so you don't have to stay there forever

[ 本帖最後由 yungfourfour 於 2008-1-10 10:31 編輯 ]

yungfourfour

Hm.... Life is too short to trade your happiness with money.

I respect that you have two jobs, and I respect you decided to break up with that girl if you see that she's not the one for you.  Just don't sacrifice them for the sake of being financially secure because in the end you want to share your harvest with the upcoming lucky girl.

I worked 2-3 jobs before without a vehicle, I am happy ga.  Now I am about to leave them all behind and come back(I just got another promotion last week), I am still happy.  Keep who you are as you proceed towards your goals, and be happy.

I agree that a couple should share the same goal and somehow being financially secure before they get married..... but there's nowhere to pin the "READY" point in the timeline.... you know.

"big have big spend, small have small spend"
If your wife-to-be can't make a lot, then you pay major stuff (e.g. mortgage) and she pays minor stuff (groceries + heat) lor

If you both can make more, then make the bills more even, save more and spare some for annual vacation lor.

and save / plan for kids when you two spent enough " 2 people world" time ....etcetc....

As long as you & your wife-to-be are happy jau duc

[ 本帖最後由 yungfourfour 於 2008-1-10 13:08 編輯 ]

yungfourfour

Why don't I tell you a story happened to one of my co-workers and you see it from a 3rd person p.o.v

My co-worker was sent from beijing to Alberta to study.  He had a gf who's 3 years older than him at that time and they keep the Long Distance relationship.  He stayed here for 3 years, graduated and already got a permanent job.  His  immigration is in progress and he can actually go back and visit his gf (she already turns 30 and it's not easy for a girl at that age in china to face her frd and family and tell them that they are gonna marry soon. Come on, they haven't seen each other for 3 years.)  My friend complained she is never happy and will never satisfied.  He works so hard to achieve the goal and set the family.  But for what?  Even I won't believe she loves the girl, I mean, if my bf is in another country for 3 years and keep prosponing the visit date, I would really question whether he still loves me or not.  You know?

You maybe trying so hard giving, but is that what she wants?

you did mention she spent a lot of your money.  Is she not satisfied, or that's not what she wants?

And yeah

as long as you love her, it's stupid to let it go

But if you have to spend time thinking if you love her or not, forget it. the answer is no.