big_tooth

Problem is your husband doesn't understand you, not men don't understand women.

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原帖由 SAZABI 於 2008-3-19 08:12 發表


So, you do understand?  Congratz then.

Sazabi, I don't have to understand Alc.

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原帖由 Alcoholic 於 2008-3-19 09:17 發表

噢~ 原來你做過問卷調查我唔知
真搞笑。

知道既男性朋友個個都話唔係大問題,係咪遲早都要剪頭髮
知道既女性朋友個個都話如果係佢，一定好似我咁喊。我有朋友similar case, but her hair got caught inside blow drye ...

Look back at your own words.  Have you done a survey to show men don't understand?  Your male friends don't think it's a big problem doesn't mean they don't understand why you think it is.  And secondly, your male friends don't represent the majority of men, let alone ALL men.

How am I being self-centered?  Because I have an opinion?  That I'm implying that there are many men out there that do understand?  What?

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原帖由 SAZABI 於 2008-3-19 10:48 發表


I think it is pretty common that women claim men don't understand them.  And, I would like to point out that there is a difference between knowing and understanding.  e.g. I know girls love shopping ...

You're putting words in my mouth.  I'm not suggesting surveys are useless.  It depends on the sample size.  If you are to say my friends are this way and therefore people are this way, then I would say that "survey" is crap.

Having said that, I do think it is lame to start all these survey talk.

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原帖由 utopia 於 2008-3-19 12:12 發表
Perhaps, someone really have a boring life and his/her only fun is try to make an argument with my twin. Since Alc can go on and on and on and on with her endlessly, heheehhe, Hey, not everybody have  ...

I wasn't even trying to debate with your twin.  Just an opinion that it is her husband not understanding her.  Is there something wrong with that?

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原帖由 SAZABI 於 2008-3-19 11:46 發表


When your friends or the people you know are this way.  It is hard to make yourself to believe the majority of the people are not this way.

Alright, so maybe my friends do understand and that's why I say what I said.  What is the problem?

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原帖由 Alcoholic 於 2008-3-19 11:56 發表
so funny
so what's YOUR opinion sin? you "understand" or "not understand" sin.
so what's the purpose of you generalization that "husband doesn't understand" VS "men don't understand" when you didn't  ...

I did give my opinion.  I don't believe my opinion has to be either "understand" or "not understand" wor.  Are you setting the rules of internet posting?  Now that is lame.

If I must answer one way or the other, then yes, I do understand.  And since there are couple men in the forum understood, I don't see why it is a man problem.

I'm not applying my logic on you lor.  I'm just giving opinion jir.  You can say men don't understand while I can't say your husband don't understand ah?  In fact, you are forcing your "men don't understand" logic onto people wor.

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又唔見其他男人(understand or not understand)好似你咁冇幽默感兼咁小氣?
I do have a sense of humor, it's only because you fail to see that I might be poking fun.

又唔見其他男人(understand or not understand)好似你咁feel offended?
I wasn't offended wor, just making comment jir.  You seem to be the one offended by starting to call people self centered and 小氣

又唔見其他男人(understand or not understand)好似你咁搵野拗一餐?
And I don't see other women arguing like you two twin.  So what's your point?

你覺得offended既話咪唔好搭deh，過主囉。
Likewise.  If you don't like people making comments that don't suit you, then don't post on the internet.

[ 本帖最後由 big_tooth 於 2008-3-20 02:34 編輯 ]

big_tooth

Let me clarify my comment:

There are many men out there who are sensitive enough to understand situations like this.  Whether they agree with it or not is a different issue.  

It does not matter if other men understand or not, their non-understand do not affect you one bit.  The key is for the husband to be sensible enough to his wife.

Generalizing it as a group behavior will do you no good, however, narrowing it down to an individual level could help correcting the problem (i.e. help your husband to understand it).

Thus the comment: It’s not a problem of men that don’t understand, it’s a problem with the husband not understanding his wife.

I did not feel offended, however some comments made toward me were hitting below the belt.  If I were meant to attack people here, I would’ve made fun of burning the hair instead.

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I did not mean to debate, but I made 1 comment and I got personal attacked.

So now I clarified my comment lor, and you have to tell me to get a life?  What's the point of another personal attack?

If you guys don't want comments that you don't like, don't post it up here.  Geez.