chocobun

please elaborate?
ACC-HE 發表於 2009-4-17 12:28

people who lack self confidence will tend to become arrogant as a outside wall to protect their weak confidence...

but those who are confident they dont need to say anything to proof themselves and they can be more 謙卑

chocobun

it works... maybe not 100% care about what other people think, but over time you'll start to care less. it takes time.

i used to think about every single movement or sentence i do or say... just because i care about what anyone would think, even if i dont know that person... back then i have no self confidence at all.  but then it got too stressful so i decided to learn to ignore what people think. for people you dont know like strangers on the street, who cares what they think cuz you dont even know them and you would most likely never bump into them again? as for those who you know, as long as it doesnt harm others, it's your life... who are they to tell you what to do or look down at you for what you do? afterall you just live once, if you worry about what others think too much you'll miss out lots in life.

just do something that you like to do and you are good at, then you'll achieve self-actualization... then you'll have confidence in yourself. when you dont care too much of others might think you wont brag about it and you can stay humble.

chocobun

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Ignoring inputs from surroundings (ie. how people feel about or look at you) is a psychological self-protection mechanism. You might feel you are more confident by cutting yourself of ...
rockypath 發表於 2009-4-17 16:18

i'm not saying ignore completely.
i'm just talking about how some people would care about every sentence other people would say and elaborate it in their minds and stress themselves out when the other person wasn't even criticizing.

some people would modify their actions and change who they are just because of listening to a sentence or two that others are saying

chocobun

Agree with you.

One of my friends used to be like that and he cared so much about how people would think of you and he would go over every sentence in his mind before saying it. But he was totally ...
rockypath 發表於 2009-4-17 16:30

i guess it's part of growing up.

no one can say they have 100% self confidence all their life.. haha if they say that they are just purely arrogant and nowhere close to humble :p just bluffing~