zuesel

people who lack self confidence will tend to become arrogant as a outside wall to protect their weak confidence...

but those who are confident they dont need to say anything to proof themselves and  ...
chocobun 發表於 2009-4-17 12:31

Totally agree! Those who speak, act, loudly to get attention are the ones lacking self confidence and have low self-esteem. I know a few as my personal friends and even some ppl in LYK. My friends who are like that are soooooooooo annoying. They talk about themselves alot and like to be-little others at any chance they can get! Seems they are the only ppl living in the world or the universe revolves around them!

zuesel

In my opinion,

you can be self confident and humble when....
-You are sure of yourself but don't have to show it off all the time.
-Your actions don't intimate others.
-You don't feel that you (know it all) and you open to others opinion. You discuss instead of argue to win.
-You are well knowledged but don't feel that you know everything!
-Know that you can always learn something from someone else
-You are sure of yourself but can still have room for improvement
-You are not always try to compete with others

I know I am confident yet humble:
-When others seek my opinions and ask me for advise.
-When others pay attention to me when I speak
-I don't need tangible things to make me feel confident. Ie: Wealth or feel low self esteemed if I don't have a LV bag.

I know I am not humble and not cofident (but thought that I am) when:
-I make sure that my voice is heard by others
-I crave for attention
-I am not open to others suggestions
-I am always wanting to correct and critical of others
-Others respond by ignoring me
-Others like to challenge me
-A discussion always turns to a debate or argument
-I look down on others
-When I base my selfworth on how others view me

zuesel

i'm not saying ignore completely.
i'm just talking about how some people would care about every sentence other people would say and elaborate it in their minds and stress themselves out when the oth ...
chocobun 發表於 2009-4-17 15:22

that's exactly what i mean by "When I base my selfworth on how others view me"

ACHEE, exactly what are you looking for? Could you give an example or elaberate on your question a bit more or have some kind of sinario?