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回復 90# chunsh


    Great standup comedy.

相處之道，不外乎你就下我，我就下你。女仔講嘢溫柔啲婉轉啲無錯，不過啲男仔都唔可以take it for granted。

fibbi

回復  chunsh


  不如問你一個問題吖，如果你帶個女朋友第一次返屋企食飯，你阿媽筆湯過你老豆，但唔覺意 ...
jiujiujiu 發表於 2013-1-13 02:25

難為了蕉蕉。。。

如果係我，我會覺得少見為妙。。。同埋認真睇吓個男友會唔會遺傳到呢啲性格。始終喺個咁嘅家庭長大，唔知會唔會有影響。

fibbi

回復 95# chunsh


    Well, from what I sense from her posts, she may encounter some situation where FIL kinda confront/offend her directly? (not that she see FIL is bad to MIL then she reacts).

And yes I would agree if it's just their family business I wouldn't react unless FIL directly insults or do something bad to ME. Other than that just stay out (or not meet) as much as possible.

fibbi

家家有本難念的經啦。
But for the "old school" way you mention that involved both side parents, I'd rather not trouble my own parents la...
Imagine, then my parents will be mad about my husband (so as their parents, and then upset about me marrying to such a "family"...) I'd rather handle it within us(me+husband).

fibbi

回復 99# chunsh


    again, if the in-law family did something "bad" to me, I do expect husband to kinda "protect" me on the spot or do something, at least not completely quiet.

Then later on just avoid family gathering.

fibbi

回復 102# reyes


    but do you really care what they said? Coz in the end, whatever you do, they may criticize.

fibbi

當然啦，講包容，講一家人。講就梗係天下無敵。
真係要做到？最怕就係你當人哋一家人人哋當你一舊雲。

遇着啲非一般家庭，我都係零願少接觸，如果燒唔到我嗰疊我都唔會加意見。人哋老豆罵人哋呀媽，其實邊到做心抱嘅出聲？係都係個仔（即係老公）出聲先啦。呢個會係我嘅做法，無謂做醜人。

fibbi

我想問嘅係，結婚之前係咪應該諗吓自己接唔接受，樂唔樂意，做人妻子之餘，做一個好新袍呢？

如果 ...
大C姐 發表於 2013-1-24 15:23

如果覺得結婚對象嘅父母好難頂, 點解唔可以選擇避席，少接觸，無磨擦。
而且，咩叫好心抱？駛唔駛斟茶遞水煮埋飯？過時過節大家食餐飯，奉上啲"心意"，大家happy唔駛煩。

做人後底乸唔同，做人後母，責任重大，通常都吃力不討好，所以都應該三思。

fibbi

唔好誤會，我絕對認為過時過節大家食餐飯，奉上啲"心意"係應份嘅。weekend都應該去探吓佢哋。

但係你有無諗過如果你去到一個屋企，個阿爸阿媽互片（不停噪交），完全當你無到，咁你去嚟做乜？齋坐聽佢哋鬧？定係勸交？定係好似jiujiu咁教番呀媽兩招？

兩個人嘅感情問題第三者根本好難幫得到忙，何況嗰個係長輩？做心抱嘅我就覺得無資格出聲。

咁可以點？咪減少出現囉。relationship係相對架。當無人當你係一回事，無人treasure你嘅存在，咁仲可以點？針唔桔到肉唔知痛，到你遇到啲咁嘅屋企你又會點？

fibbi

回復 139# 大C姐


    都係嗰句，針唔桔到肉唔知痛，道理係人都識講。真係做到自己又係另一回事。慶幸你唔係呢啲咁非一般家庭嘅一份子（或者係無見識過）。
同埋每個人嘅處事手法唔同，你可以唔認同我嘅見解但係唔同你嘅見解就係歪理？真係幾得意。