fibbi

This hurts the most.
"So and so's kids are better than you..."

Then years later, I talked about that to my Mom and guess what she said...she said "other kids are better..." at that time the comment is based on some thing that the other kid does... and she said that I gotta be more open minded and learn how/why the other kid behaves smarter from that case, instead of feeling left out and hurt. In other words I should learn to be smarter, and don't be "siu hay" instead. And some how...it kinda make sense... And my response is that... then how come when I tried to do the same thing that the other kid does... there is no recognition? Then she said... "it's not good for mom to praise their own kid in public"... and you should feel how Mom loves you all the time from how mom takes care of you...don't need to "say it out" all the times...

I guess if I become the parents...I would remember to praise the kid doesn't matter in public or privately...kids need that encouragement...

fibbi

回復 3# tofu


    At first I had the same feeling too...but then...just think of they probably has no one else to share their lives/jokes or whatever...

And some how...I would think once you don't hear it anymore...then u will miss it... (not u but anybody in general...)

fibbi

回復 16# habitrailspace


   

Your parents say that to u?

fibbi

回復 20# tofu


    Oh I see what you mean now

fibbi

回復 43# mcjohnjohn


    講起麻雀，我最記得細個有一次，我見到姨媽喺對家有我媽咪叫緊胡個隻牌，咁我就細細聲咁話俾媽咪聽話姨媽有嗰隻牌，攪到媽咪好尷尬咁話唔可以講啲麻雀俾人聽架。。。

fibbi

回復 45# mcjohnjohn


    我好聽話架，見到都唔會再出聲嘅！

fibbi

回復 47# jeje


    Then your mom is so nice to you! My mom would have said "how come u did so poorly!"

fibbi

回復 50# zuesel


    OMG....that's just too much! Did you do something bad? But anyhow...I don't think this way of "teaching" works at all! Poor Zuesel!

fibbi

I got beaten by "tung til"...because I got 92 on test instead of 100!!!! Yes I did have some careless mistakes on the calculation but does that worth beaten up? I seriously wondered.
I'm also too chicken to be rebellious...I do think "beaten" may be necessary to really bad behaviour and when kid is super "un pay" and won't listen at all after many attempts...but that should be the very last method to use.