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If the guy can afford it, of course it's best for him to pay.
if the guy needs fianacial back up, then he should discuss with his family for help.

Nobody ever really will have the 2 familys sit down & talk about this properly. why? cus' 講錢傷感情 & is awkward nowdays. usually, you as the bride should kinda know how much your parents are expecting from the groom's family. once you get enough clues/hints on the amount, you should go to your fiance & tell him, so he can either take care of it himself or let him discuss with his family.

the 禮金 should be given on a day where your fortuneteller tells you to.

the girl's family need to give back partial portion of the 過大禮 things back to the guy's family. again, when you do it, depends on what dates your chinese fortuneteller asks you to do....

Alcoholic

少少都要既~ 因為係我地中國習jook~
unless you're doing it entirely western...then the girl's family pays all

Alcoholic

then sorry to say Maggie, but your fiance is pretty immature to be honest. marriage is not just about him & how he thinks, it's about uniting you guys AND your families. it's about time you talk some sense & respect into him

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原帖由 Maggie 於 2008-2-25 02:38 AM 發表


Not that easy... if it happened (which I highly doubt) it has to be done behind my bf's back as he is strongly against paying lai gum and he said he wouldn't let his parents do it...

sorry, but your bf is such a ___________!!

try to date out your future lai-lai, & your mom, & just you. just the three of you SANS your bf. all women, talk about it directly & openly, so it clears up. AND you 3 women deal about it UNDER the table. if your bf is acting like that, then i don't think it's possible for you to ever marry him.