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doraemon1002

I am from a single family, with my mum and little sister.

I work very hard to give them a better life.

I am the main family income source. In my mind, it is my responsibility to take good care of my mum and sister.

I broke up with my gf, one of the reasons is that she said I spent too much time with my family. She said she is always ranked in number 3. If something happens, i will always go to my family first.

She asked me to move out and live with her. I said no, i don't want to leave my mum and sister alone.

Even my mum told me not to worry about them, just go to do whatever i want to do.

But in my mind, i don't want them to feel like that i leave them behind to do my own stuff.

I don't want them to feel like they are my burden. Actaully they are not, they are the two most impossible people in my life.

maybe i get used to take care of them.

I make sure we go out for dinner at least once a week.Yes, it is the only dinner we eat together every week.

Yes, there is tons of pressure on my shoulder. I work two jobs, plus all these.

My mum told me to relax, it is not my responsibility to support the whole family.

If i have a relationship again or get married, eventually i need to move out.

Anyone here was or is in the similar situation, i need some suggestion from you. I feel tired and frustrated sometimes. I have too many things need to handle.

Doraemon1002

doraemon1002

just had a big fight with my mum.

We were arguing about a lot of stuff.

There were a lot of stuff that were hiding in my mind for so long, i let my mum know yesterday.

I told her i am very tired, my mind, my body. There are tons of load on my shoulder.

I work hard, but i don't see the result.

My mum said i am a very negative person, worrying too much. I don't look forward, think too much about the stuff in the past.

We used to be very wealthy before 1997, we lost everything in a very short period after.

We have been suffering for 10 years already. all the debt, mortgage, they drained all the energy out of our body.

life is tired and not enjoyable for me at this moment. I don't see my future.

doraemon1002

Utopia,

I wish i chould have posted my story here half year or even earlier.

maybe you and your husband are under the similar situation as i am, you really could point out all the things i went through with my ex.

I treated my ex as my wife too. She is as important as my mum and sister, but sometimes she just doesn't understand me.

Since the first we were together, i told her i could not promise i could give her a wealthy life, with unlimited spending, but i could promise her at least i would give her a stable life.

I told her in order to keep my promise, i need to work more and i told her i would have less time being with her. I have been trying my best, but seem like it is not the life style she wants.

Hopefully one day, i could meet the right one, that she would understand what i have done for my family, my future, and i really could take good take of her.

doraemon1002

I lost 10 lbs for just a week. Breaking up is really a good way to lose weight!

Do we really need to learn from pain, in order to know how to treasure a relationship?

Sometimes i am just so confused, how do i show a girl she is very important to me?

I always think i need to guess the "answers" in her mind.

If i guess it wrong, that means i would say something wrong. I may affect the whole situation.

doraemon1002

其實已經很努力了﹐放棄了許多。
很多東西也放不下。很多情況下﹐也是多做了很多別人沒有要求的東西。對她們好才主動去做﹐但最後只給人說“我沒有要求你做的﹗”

但有時沒有做﹐她們就會說要不要說出口你才懂去做呢。

我也覺得我真的是為別人而活着﹐不是為自己。

為別人而開心﹐不懂如何為自己而快樂。

快樂是一件很容易的事﹐但也是很困難。

doraemon1002

我朋友話好仔市場好細﹐你0地有咩意見﹖

我唔甘心﹐我唔想衰俾人睇﹐從讀大學開始已經好努力。呢個時代﹐好多時看你是否成功就是看你的賺錢能力。同意嗎﹖

可能VANCOUVER食父母的有錢細路太多了﹐媽說要找一個肯跟你分擔﹐挨世界的真的不容易﹐門當戶對好像是以前的事情﹐但其實一路也存在。

可能我的ex太辛褔了﹐很難讓她明白我的苦和難處。

女孩子不是想找一個可以好好照顧妳們的男孩子嗎﹖我想每一個女孩子也不同吧。

拍拖真是很困難﹐讓人很累。

doraemon1002

Traum,

你講得好0岩﹐我應該知道要放手﹐再拖下去事情也只會變差。

我知道大家也只是放不下那種感覺﹐她跟我說想把我留在身邊﹐可以好好的出去玩﹐食飯睇戲﹐但是我真的做不到。我問她把我放在身邊有什麼用呢﹖

我知道總有一天我也要離開﹐只是遲早0既事。

doraemon1002

When my ex was mad, she poured water into my car, wrote bad words on my car window with her lipstick, ran out of the car when we stopped at the red light, threw my stuff away.

I was really mad at those moments. but i just didn't recgonize she just wanted to have my attention.

We laughed, we cried, we argued.

I will remember all these sweet memory.

My story is end here.

Thank you everyone.

doraemon1002

I still miss my ex so much.

i told myself i should not call her anymore, because everytime i call her, my heart feels so much pain.

it is really a tough time for me.

I could not sleep.

My mum told me to see family doctor, she afraid i will go crazy seriously.

doraemon1002

not really.

She just starts dating a new guy.

I thought she has been riding two boats. The night we broke up, i asked her if she has a new bf, she said no. But as his bf for so long, when i was holding her hands, her reaction was not the same.

Last night, she called me and said, the new guy said he loves her,and she loves him too.

It was killing me. Yes, we broke up, but she doesn't have to tell me how good she is now.

She even asked me if i could tell if the new guy is truely loving her or not.

How could i help her to date the other guy??

She asked me if i could be her best friends that could go out with her,have fun. I said no!

I am not a backup. It is like, ok, she went out to try a new guy, if he is good, she will stay with him, if he is not good, she could come back to me. She thought i would be always at her back.

I just couldn't do it. I felt so upset. How could we have trust?

I know i should let her go, and should not look back.

but i really really love her, i just can't stand up so quick rightnow.