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doraemon1002

I am from a single family, with my mum and little sister.

I work very hard to give them a better life.

I am the main family income source. In my mind, it is my responsibility to take good care of my mum and sister.

I broke up with my gf, one of the reasons is that she said I spent too much time with my family. She said she is always ranked in number 3. If something happens, i will always go to my family first.

She asked me to move out and live with her. I said no, i don't want to leave my mum and sister alone.

Even my mum told me not to worry about them, just go to do whatever i want to do.

But in my mind, i don't want them to feel like that i leave them behind to do my own stuff.

I don't want them to feel like they are my burden. Actaully they are not, they are the two most impossible people in my life.

maybe i get used to take care of them.

I make sure we go out for dinner at least once a week.Yes, it is the only dinner we eat together every week.

Yes, there is tons of pressure on my shoulder. I work two jobs, plus all these.

My mum told me to relax, it is not my responsibility to support the whole family.

If i have a relationship again or get married, eventually i need to move out.

Anyone here was or is in the similar situation, i need some suggestion from you. I feel tired and frustrated sometimes. I have too many things need to handle.

Doraemon1002

Hiro

come doraemon!~ you have been through A LOT! working and all the work in U and everything! You have gained a lot more than you know you did! Just remember one thing: you are working for a better future, for your own better future! of course hving a gf as a support is one of the ways to boost yourself to work... but i really wonder at certain times do you really think you haven't used ur gf as a backup either ma? maybe you doesnt feel you did, but ur gf might have felt that way and you didnt no... relationships are complicated. there are always two sides in a relationship. even though you think you are going on together, if the other person arent thinking the same thing, the bond breaks and ur paces will grow apart! since she chose her road, she will keep walking. as in you, you are still stepping on the same stone u did as before. Do you really want to go on like this? remember you still have a mom and sister. They CARED about you as much as your gf! THEY ARE ALSO YOUR SUPPORT TOO!!! nv think you are alone! comparing to some people on this planet, you, me, and everyone here are probably doing better than them. at the very least, you have a family, a stable income, and alive! as long as you are alive, you can walk ur way thru lows and live proudly! cuz all the things you've earned along the way is from your own efforts. and the knowledge you've gained along the way will belong to you, and you forever! DONT GIVE UP! I am sure a number of people here have gone through similar situation in Vancouver. a lot of  people here are probably affected by the 1997 crisis lightly or hardly! as long as you keep going, no way you will gonna lie on the streets and become one of the bums on the street! ADD OIL! YOU CAN DO IT!

chihiro

o衣o家係過渡期，遲些你就會好o的o家啦，到時個腦清醒o左你就唔會再想打電話比你個EX，唔會再等你個EXo既電話。take your time, don't force yourself~ +oil you deserve a better girl

notgoddy

(oops what was I thinking talking in 3rd person...)

Dora, too much of a good thing can be bad. Why working long and hard when you can work smartly?

Like any rational person you would want a reason as to why she left you, and I would say it is because she was stupid and as were you.

Think it through man, you will learn from this and become a smarter person.

doraemon1002

my friend said if i can't get better asap, i will have depression.

i talked to my ex. She said she wants me to understand her.

Let her free.

i am just not happy.

she was my support to work hard. I have never complained even i work 70hrs a week, because when i felt tired, i would think it is for our future, then i would feel i am fine.

suddenly the support is gone, and not even my fault.

If i cheated and went out with the other girl and we broke up, i won't feel this bad.

it is really really tough.

notgoddy

That is so sad. Why is the girl so selfish? It doesn't sound like she have to support anyone else.  Doraemon1002 is kind of deluded though, how can he think he is the sole support of his family?

Littleprince

係呀﹐唔好氣餒呀﹐女孩子會喜歡顧家的男孩子的﹐因為顧家代表將來都會對新建立的家庭負責任﹐你一定能找到更好的女朋友﹐加油~~~

weewee

Don't worry la Doraemon,
you will eventually find a better gf. Someone who admire your strength, taking care of your mom and ur sis. Who appreciates you. Add oil. Hang in there. You'll be better off.

doraemon1002

個個都話我可以揾個好0的0既﹐我個EX依家當然好開心啦﹐多次同我講佢個新仔有幾好﹐以前係我好好照顧佢﹐佢依家同我講個男仔係唔識照顧佢﹐但係佢話佢照顧埋個男仔都肯。

我都唔知有咩好講0羅。

連佢阿媽都知個新男仔係玩玩0下﹐佢都要飛埋去﹐明知佢會俾人HURT我又講佢唔聽。

0甘又係﹐佢0甘大個人﹐佢都同我講佢衰佢事﹐唔駛我管佢。

佢0甘講我都好傷。

doraemon1002

有時真係覺得自己好賤﹐又忍唔住打俾佢﹐最後個心又俾人插多兩刀。

個個都話我個EX玩0野﹐想揾我做後備。佢出去玩過衰0左都仲有我接手。

但係有0的朋友又話俾佢出去玩0下﹐最後佢可能會知道邊個對佢最好就會回頭。

我都死心時佢又會打0黎。

好多人都叫我一刀斷算啦。

我都好明白要放手向前走。但我係局中人﹐知道要做但係都係做唔到。