I am from a single family, with my mum and little sister.
I work very hard to give them a better life.
I am the main family income source. In my mind, it is my responsibility to take good care of my mum and sister.
I broke up with my gf, one of the reasons is that she said I spent too much time with my family. She said she is always ranked in number 3. If something happens, i will always go to my family first.
She asked me to move out and live with her. I said no, i don't want to leave my mum and sister alone.
Even my mum told me not to worry about them, just go to do whatever i want to do.
But in my mind, i don't want them to feel like that i leave them behind to do my own stuff.
I don't want them to feel like they are my burden. Actaully they are not, they are the two most impossible people in my life.
maybe i get used to take care of them.
I make sure we go out for dinner at least once a week.Yes, it is the only dinner we eat together every week.
Yes, there is tons of pressure on my shoulder. I work two jobs, plus all these.
My mum told me to relax, it is not my responsibility to support the whole family.
If i have a relationship again or get married, eventually i need to move out.
Anyone here was or is in the similar situation, i need some suggestion from you. I feel tired and frustrated sometimes. I have too many things need to handle.
you've been thinking too much in my opinion, and giving yourself too much stress on this issue. You have a very understanding mom and you are a very good son, she is said the main point "eventually you'll have your own family". If you are in the age of considering marriage, I think you have to be prepared this will be happened for sure, just sooner or later.
So do you mean your gf is complaining not enough time, or she is not happy you are financially supporting your family?
Take care man, and try to relax .. I am sure your gf will understand you .. and come back to you .. or another good girl will show up ..
Nice girls always appreciate guys who cares about their family ...
Before I married my wife, I asked her "You know I care my mom and brother a lots, and more then you .. but if I am a guy, who doesn't care my mom, my brother, do you think you will stay with me?" Of course, she said "NO"
原帖由 Catpiano 於 2008-1-12 16:19 發表
I think you are doing right ... FAMILY > GF ...
Take care man, and try to relax .. I am sure your gf will understand you .. and come back to you .. or another good girl will show up ..
Nice gir ...
Your mom is your mom .. your sister is your sister .. gf is important, and you should love her too, and the fact is, if a girl can be rated # 3 to a guy, that is good for her already!
There should be no judgment on what you're doing is right or wrong, good or bad geh. And there is no such theory that "if you're going to live with your mom and sister after married, you won't find any wife"! Maybe many gals prefer to live with their husband only without any other family members. But there are some gals wouldn't mind that (and actually I know some gals who are living with the guys family for no problem at all).
Now I understand why you need to work for 2 jobs. I won't say this is good or bad, but I only know you would be very tired lor. But after all, you have your own value, and you are a good man!
when you gf become your wife, then she will become part of the family...
maybe she is not complaining that you aren't taking care of her good enough. i think some women just wants to be put into the 1st place status jeh.
Doraemon, I don't think I had a similar situation like yours, just a bit, but just want to let you know I really admire your strength. After reading your sharing here and the other thread "working two jobs", I believe that you are an extremely hardworking guy and you have done your bests.
I'm glad that you are working less time and trying to relax for a change. Time to enjoy yourself alone, with your family, with friends and stuffs. Life is short, cherish it.
May I ask how old is your sister? If she is old enough to have a job then maybe she support financial status a bit. It's good to acquire work experience either ways.
did it ever occur to you that, one day, your gf will become your wife. and then she IS family too? if you continue to identify gf as just gf, and your family as your family (and family 1st), then how can you include your gf to be your potential wife, and then family??
發表於 2008-1-12 15:47
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