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RE: working two jobs

Anyone here is working two jobs? one full time and another p/t at night?

I am one of the people who have two jobs.

My gf wants to break up with me. She said I am too busy, I don't have enough time for her.

I told her i am working hard for our future., but seems like she doesn't understand.

I don't want to give up my p/t as i want to earn as much as possbile when i am still young.

Sometimes i just don't want to spend too much, she would say i am so cheap. She said i only know how to save money but don't know how to spend.

Any suggestion? Should i let her go? My friends said i deserve a better one.

I sort of have two jobs.  During the day, I am a computer programmer but after I get off work at 5:00, I drive to my food court restaurant to help out.  I am a cashier, kitchen helper, cleaner and server.  The restaurant closes at 8:00 so by the time I get home, it is already 9:00pm.  My wife is at restaurant all day.

I used to think like you and tried to helped out the restaurant 7 days too.  However I soon realized there was not much conversation between my wife and me.  By the time we went home, both of us took shower and we almost were in time for bed.

Therefore, we tried to at least get Sunday afternoon so we can spend some quality time together.

Work is important but your family is too.  You will regret that when you are young, you miss  alot of good times.  You should try to take some time off and be with your gf (at least like me, get Sunday off).
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Many people work more than one job. My brother worked 3.5 job for years.
Full-time programmer day time, Delivery boy + Waiter, P/T fixing computer.

That drive him nut and very tired. He still tired now but at least he is working for 2 jobs which is slightly better..............as a sister, I feel bad to see him totally drained out all the energy ...........

I totally agree with myversa, that's what happened to my brother too. He decided to take Sunday off for rest or spend time with my ar so. Even though, it's not spending time but at least he has some spare time to do the gardening for his house

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dude... I work 1 job, and I am lucky if I get sunday off.

oh wait... i do have a 2nd job.  my wife's slave

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but if i don't work more, how do i have enough to give her a stable life?
How do i show her mum i am financially good?

I got nothing from my parents, i earn everything myself.

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Hm....... sounds like to me there's still a lot to find out b/t your gf and you...
Is she the type of person who doesn't want to work but wants you to pay for her?
or she finds you working too hard and the quality time b/t you two becomes ..... minimal?

I can understand your feeling.  a month ago I hand out Metro newspaper 6:00-9:00 a.m., then work as an analyst 1-9 p.m., and tutor high school students on weekend.  Now I quit Metro because of the weather ( I am in Alberta and it gets -20). AND I AM A GIRL.

It's so hard to save $1000 after tax, rent, food and stuff and in the end we got like.... 12K a year? It takes 1 person 3 years to save for a decent wedding and...... what about downpayment for houses after that???  Let her do the math.  Quality time doesn't require $$ all the time...

Well but at the same time, a person you care cannot be evaluated by $$

My sister recently had bipolar syndrome and i am preparing to leave everything in Alberta just to move back to take care of her.

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Well, I don't think the girl might absolutely think you are cheap.

I had similar experience with caveman before. I complained to him that why is everything about money. Like yungfourfour mentioned, he did the math for me  about future situation. From then, I quit partying and shopping and hope to do the saving with him together.

And also, when I complained to him about money, to be honest, it's not about money solely. Since caveman already so busy with school and work and investment, when we are together, I wish he focus on the quality time not money. We already saving hard on daily things, why can't we just sit down and relax for once and treat ourselves nicely? From then, he will just cheap on himself and won't cheap on us anymore. He understands and start to learn how to enjoy life more.

It just such a turn off when "pak tau" involved calculating money every minute. Do those math in your heart or when it is necessary, ok?

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I am not sure about your girlfriend. I used to feel left out when caveman is so busy with his life. Then, I have a chance to move up or promoted in my career, since then I've transformed into a workaholic myself and I hardly complain that we did not spend enough time. Well, I did once in awhile........that when we worked like 7 days a week...............I told him once bitterly that we haven't "pak tau" for ................almost a month la.........can we quit doing things "seriously" for once? Then, ever since, he free himself sunday off and "pui" me lor.........

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yea..i only work like 70-80 working hrs a week, maybe not that much compared to some people here.

but plus the time i drive to work, different locations, i don't really have much time left.

maybe it is the end of our story.

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