chunsh

唔好誤會，我絕對認為過時過節大家食餐飯，奉上啲"心意"係應份嘅。weekend都應該去探吓佢哋。

但係你有無 ...
fibbi 發表於 2013-1-25 11:43

well, if u always compare your other half's parents with your own parents, of course you will think nobody 當你係一回事

but think in another way, does his parents do all the fighting in front of STRANGERS? Probably they just treat u one of them so they dont mind to let u know they are fighting

大C姐

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    都係嗰句，針唔桔到肉唔知痛，道理係人都識講。真係做到自己又係另一回事。慶幸你唔係 ...
fibbi 發表於 2013-1-25 12:45

你依然解釋唔到點解人哋嗌交關你咩事，同你尊唔尊重佢哋有咩關係。

你老竇老母都有嗌過交啩？你會唔會唔孝順佢哋？莫講話嗌交啦，就算離咗婚都唔代表你唔可以尊重佢哋同愛護佢哋。


同埋每個家庭都一定有＂難頂＂嘅成員，正所謂家家有本難唸的經，但係我相信性格改變命運。當你包容到身邊嘅人，用心去對佢哋又唔係要有回報的話，人心肉做，我覺得冇嘢話解決唔到。你重唔重視佢哋，有冇出盡力想佢哋好，日子係可以證明。

你要死撐，同老人家搞對抗，辛苦嘅係自己同你老公。我唔相信你係全世界唯一最可憐嘅例子，你走投無路先逼不得已要對人處處冷言冷語。又或者我未睇得出你家庭有幾＂非一般＂，so far你啲問題都係三毫子一擔。

fibbi

你依然解釋唔到點解人哋嗌交關你咩事，同你尊唔尊重佢哋有咩關係。

你老竇老母都有嗌過交啩？你會唔會唔 ...
大C姐 發表於 2013-1-25 14:56

我諗你攪錯咗，個thread唔係我發起，我同OP都有唔同嘅處理方法。我會keep silence，唔會過兩招俾奶奶。唔會介入人哋兩公婆嘅爭執。

換轉嚟講，如果自己嘅父母每日都係日嘈夜嘈，你會唔會想搬開住？唔通搬開住見少啲就等於唔尊敬佢哋？

fibbi

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if they are treating daughter in law as "stranger"...then should daughter-in-law still treat them as own parents? Sorry but i think relationship is "both way"...one way relationship won't work. Not like I'm gonna "ignore" them but that's why be friendly but keep a bit distance.

大C姐

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if they are treating daughter in law as "stranger"...then should daughter-in-law stil ...
fibbi 發表於 2013-1-25 15:46

    總之唔洗好作狀咁做戲咁做，又咩帶面具，又咩遇强越强，又咩唔會有把柄俾人揸手，又講咩train得掂自己老公就證明自己嬴咗....我覺得有啲人睇得太多電視劇。

布小熊

I am not really taking sides but I think unless you really experience it, it's hard to judge. I am not agreeing or disagreeing with how OP handles her family issues. It's just a way she choose to do. It may work for her this way and not for yourself in similar situation.

同埋每個家庭都一定有＂難頂＂嘅成員，正所謂家家有本難唸的經，但係我相信性格改變命運。當你包容到身邊嘅人，用心去對佢哋又唔係要有回報的話，人心肉做，我覺得冇嘢話解決唔到。你重唔重視佢哋，有冇出盡力想佢哋好，日子係可以證明。

I thought this only happen in HK TV drama. LOL

relationship is hard to be built one way. If the other side refused to accept your fav, it's pretty frustrating.
Some ppl are more lucky, some aren't so.

大C姐

I am not really taking sides but I think unless you really experience it, it's hard to judge. I am n ...
布小熊 發表於 2013-1-25 16:07

都係嗰句啦，冇人叫你結婚，你可以唔頂佢哋㗎，你可以黑面，你可以搞小動作，你可以成日唱衰其它人，你可以做你心目中故事裡面嘅受害者。你覺得自在，開心咪得囉!


每個人都覺得自己係故事裡面嘅主角，覺得自己個故事與眾不同，啲人物非比尋常。其實９９％嘅故事都係千篇一律（真係有啲好離普嘅老爺虐待個奶奶，仲搞埋個家嫂個案就可以話係非一般），只不過好多人將一蚊銀咁大嘅嘢睇到月球咁大。

chunsh

I am not really taking sides but I think unless you really experience it, it's hard to judge. I am n ...
布小熊 發表於 2013-1-25 16:07

Why the hell Miss jiu try to step into her husband's family and 分化人地父母？人地兩公婆點鬧交又如何，你自己都話家家有本難念的經啦，講真，真系關你叉事羊。呢樣可能系人地兩公婆相處幾十年既habbit呢
又講翻轉頭，如果俾人口頭SM既系個男人（her 老爺），Miss Jiu會o吾會又o甘正義呢。
你老爺對你o吾好你咪米鬼見你老爺羅, o甘樣差隻腳落人地屋企攪分化點講都系錯。