大C姐

呢d吾係eq wor，呢d係叫假
要假都要有人同你配合

有d人，一開始就知時辰八字相沖 ...
ricrick 發表於 2012-11-9 14:00

    我覺得視乎你點睇，呢個世界唔係咁多十惡不赦嘅大壞蛋，有啲人多口啲，有啲人妒忌心重啲... 我覺得都唔一定壞到一文不值。

有時懂得去發掘同欣賞別人嘅優點都係一種EQ。當你發現公司個八婆都有優點，你又可以同對方保持一個友善嘅關係都唔算假呀，唔做老友都唔一定要黑口黑面嘅。

大C姐

我做唔出 lor...almost like, make friends with the criminals so you won't be affected by those crime ...
布小熊 發表於 2012-11-9 14:06

    我選擇唔同人交惡同＂同流合烏＂係兩回事。我唔會見人打劫又去打埋一份。

做唔出定係唔想做係兩回事。見人見得越多越發覺唔係咁多＂好人＂同＂壞人＂，大部份人都有自己嘅優點與缺點。你做唔出係因爲你淨係focus人哋嘅缺點，覺得人哋嘅不是好差勁，好睇唔過眼。但係試問你自己又係唔係聖人？當你攞起石頭決定對方係衰人係criminal，你自己有冇問過自己係咪冇缺點，冇超過速，冇丟過垃圾，冇拍車唔俾錢，冇喺香港買嘢返嚟唔報足税？

個個人都犯過法，只不過係輕重嘅分別。況且講是非都唔係犯法。

布小熊

我選擇唔同人交惡同＂同流合烏＂係兩回事。我唔會見人打劫又去打埋一份。

做唔出定係唔想做係兩回 ...
大C姐 發表於 2012-11-9 02:55 PM

criminal is just an example. may be it's not a good one.
I have some baseline on being a person and if I can't agree with some baseline of certain people, I don't want to and won't force myself to be their friends.
Not saying that I will hate them and do something bad to them. But I will avoid seeing them. And it's not the same as 交惡 either.
again. 道不同不相為謀

a simple example, I love animals (in general, don't pull the topic of meat eating into this please), I can't be-friend someone who think beating up their pets and other animals for "fun".  May be that's not a crime. May be he/she is very intelligent and may "help me" on my career. But I choose NOT to.I am sure Miss 大C姐 will find problem with this example too.

大C姐

criminal is just an example. may be it's not a good one.
I have some baseline on being a person an ...
布小熊 發表於 2012-11-9 15:03

呢個example都太extreme，因爲虐畜都係犯法，好嚴重添！

我諗個topic係講緊是非精，一啲多口啲嘅人啫，又唔係咩大壞蛋，我覺得理解咗背後動機，可能做唔成朋友但係都可以friendly and civil to each other。朋友定義好闊，食飯行街嘅一種，講心事係一種，好久不見寒暄幾句嘅又係一種。做人唔洗非黑即白，每個人或多或少都有啲common ground，唔會一啲共通話題都冇。

Purpleheart

有d人，一開始就知時辰八字相沖 ...
ricrick 發表於 2012-11-9 14:00

呢個我同意啊, 我曾經真係同自己講, 唉, 算啦, 一場同事, 其實係大家做事方法唔同o者, 點知發覺點都係唔岩channel, 我仍然控制唔到自己"見佢前面憎佢後面", 佢鐘意講我是非就講飽佢啦, 我做好自己, 問心無愧就好

真人

我都會選擇道不同不為謀的做法. 真係做唔出扮friend lor, 不過就蝕低,要付出代價.
選擇不理會或沉默,的人見你無反應,只會再想方法激你,以求達到目的.

對付是非精的方法: 我只能忍痛,沉著氣,不流淚,依舊微笑,再等對方出招....

Some people are like clouds...when they disappear, it is a brighter day.

大C姐

我諗大家濫用咗＂假＂呢個字。

我覺得如果你好唔滿意對方但係刻意奉承，我會覺得假。但係如果你唔滿意一個人，但係唔去搞針對，要工作就實事求事，見到面就點吓頭，我覺得唔算假。出嚟做嘢，你係咪每一個心聲都講出嚟先？你上司做錯嘢你係咪第一時間出聲先？你個客麻煩係咪好唔客氣咁話唔做佢生意先？如果你都係要吞聲忍氣，咪又係你哋形容嘅＂假＂！


先唔好講朋友啦，如果有個朋友係是非精我就會遠離啦，但係同事冇得揀嘅，與其要見人前面嬲埋人後面，倒不如放鬆啲自在啲。你黑面都改變唔到人哋，反而弄巧反拙。出嚟做嘢還是leave your emotions at home比較好。