Sakura

I guess that's a good one~
Trust but be skeptical of things..
But I'd be doing that all the time then~ lol

The thing is tho, he always promise me he will do things and never does it!
Then he says, "Well I can't change in a day" or "I can't help it." or "My memory is not that well.." or "I am tired, I don't have time."
So whenever he says he will do something, or he will rmb to do something next time..
I always tell him, "睇o下點" or "聽住先啦" or "Whatever..I dun believe u"
And it just makes things so much harder for me to trust him..

mui122

tell him not to promise u anything unless he's sure he can and will do it
all guys are like that
I always tell them if you can't do it then dont promise
i'd rather go without the promise than have it but never having it come true

GAClone

wow soooo many girls had bad experiences here wor...but seriously. this dude u're talking about makes us guys look SOOOOOO bad! there r STILL good guys out there! it just takes "yuen fun" to meet them i guess...or go out more w/ frds and get to know THEIR frds, maybe that'll help too ;)

as for ur trust factor. i understand it's something that will be in the back of ur head from now on when u're in a relationship. but u have to be fair to ur current bf. UNLESS he's done something similar, then u can treat him w/ the same doubt. but if he hasnt shown any signs of being a terrible bf, u have to cut him some slack and treat him the way he treats u.

i would hate for my gf to keep looking at me like i will do the same thing her ex did to her. if either one of u have doubt, then the relationship will not last long, or both of u will just be in pain for the entire duration of ur relationship

hope that was semi helpful at least and best of luck la~!

news

yeahhh im a good guy...i dun hv a gf!!! screw the axxholesss..

Sakura

原帖由 GAClone 於 2008/10/2 08:58 AM 發表
UNLESS he's done something similar, then u can treat him w/ the same doubt. but if he hasnt shown any signs of being a terrible bf, u have to cut him some slack and treat him the way he treats u.

Does doing something similar before dating me counts?
Cuz he used to date around A LOT..
He's dated with almost all the girls on his cheerleading team...
He never cheated tho as far as I know of...
Just dated around and flirted a lot..
I hvn't seen anything tho after he dated me~

And of cuz I've asked him not to promise me anything if he can't do it..
But he also said a good point..
He said, "If I dun promise u, u will get mad. If I promise u and can't do it, u will still get mad..so either way I am doomed.."
Maybe that's something I need to work on myself..
But he basically will say he will do it to almost everything, then not do almost everything...

GAClone

Hm...i think if he did something before, you still have to treat him the way he is NOW. he might have been a stupid dude before and went around, but if he's more settled down now, then you should give him the benefit of the doubt. and you like him for him NOW right? not for what he WAS or HAS done before.

The second note...that's your own mentality that you will need to get over. if either way he is still doomed, then there's not much he can do about it...he's your boyfriend and not Superman, so he will love you the best he can, but his life cannot always revolve around yours.

Sakura

Well he does seem to be more settled down now..
Even his mom was saying that to me that he's been so "gwai" after he dated me..
I dun even think he went clubbing once after he started dating me..
And he used to go and get drunk and flirt all the time~

Yeh..sometimes I complain to him and he said he's alreadi tried his best to make me happy~ And I do apologize after he says that becuz I know he's trying his best but at the back of my head I just hv this crazy idea that he will do something wrong..altho my heart knows that he won't do anything..at the back of my head I m always cautious..

GAClone

if he seems more settled, then take that he is more settled now and have trust in him ^______^ not sure how old u guys r, but young guys always go flirt anyways ga la~ seems to be the nature for every growing boy XD cant really change that fact i guess. have to accept him for who he is~ and he should do the same for you! i am FAR from a love guru, hope im not trying to make myself sound like one...hahaha

Sakura

I will try harder I guess..I will have to..~
If I want to keep him..~

I think all the bad people will karma...

Sakura

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